The art of Cuddling

Learn the Art of Cuddling

                                                                                     

How many times has your girlfriend been mad at you coz you 'forgot' to cuddle her?

The chances are many. While women love very few things more than cuddling with their partners, guys somehow, always manage to not get the art of cuddling right. Either they are too sloppy, appear uninterested or rather ridiculously manage to actually doze off sometime in the middle. All these traits are hazardous (to say the least) and can definitely alter the fate of your relationship. So men, play close heed while we disclose the bare essentials about the Art of Cuddling.

1. The Hold/Touch

Gentlemen, be exactly as your title suggests: GENTLE. She is not your PSP or ipad who you clutch onto for dear life. Hold her gently, wrap her in your arms, squeeze her just the right amount. Your touch will let her know how much you love her. Yes, women are excellent at such body language reading. So let the love you feel for her seep through your gentle soft touch & hug into her skin.

2. Smell and Feel

Cuddling is not just about hugging your girlfriend as if she were a teddy bear. You need to let all your senses do the doing. Smell in her hair, and neck; move your finger (slowly) up and down her shoulders and arms. Play around with your senses, only to excite hers.

3. Talk

Cuddling, usually involves no talking. But a few sweet nothings and some sweet talk here n there would do you good. Show her your romantic side. Talk about your idea of an ideal date WITH HER, tell her how stealing a glance with her in a crowded room makes you feel at ease instantaneously and voila! she'll be yours in a jiffy.

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It's the eternal question. He's cute, funny and your friends love him, but is that enough? How do you know he's ‘the one'? Here are 10 factors to consider and if you can meet at least nine of them then hold tight because he might just be the one you've been looking for...

 

 

                 

 

He makes you laugh until you cry

A sense of the humour is one of the most appealing qualities in a man and sharing the same jokes will keep you close, whatever comes your way. It doesn't matter if no one else finds you funny, as long as you can make each other laugh out loud.

 You want the same things out of life

If you want to settle down and have a family and he wants to travel the world with no commitments then you are not on the same page. Although all couples have to make compromises you should essentially want the same things out of life and be able to work towards them together.

He likes you best with no make-up on

Yes, you may think he is lying but the chances are that he really does prefer you au natural. He loves you for you, not for the clothes you wear or the make up you doll yourself up in. If he tells you you're pretty when you are cuddled up in your pyjamas then chances are that he means it.

You see his flaws but love him anyway

It is wrong to think that to be ‘the one' your man has to be perfect. Nobody is perfect. He is ‘the one' when you know him well enough to see all his flaws, accept them for part of who he is, and love him just as much anyway.

He supports you in everything you do

Whether you are going for a job promotion or planning a night out with your friends - he should be your biggest cheerleader. He may not agree 100% with all your decisions but he will never stop you doing anything, will be there to offer advice and pick you up when things go wrong.

You trust him implicitly

If you have been hurt in the past it can be difficult to trust again, but it is an important part of any relationship. Your partner should earn your trust by proving that he always keeps his word and treats you with respect. No, you can never be 100% sure he won't stray but 99.5% will do.

Even your dad/best friend/dog likes him

OK, it shouldn't matter what other people think of him, but it is still nice to know that they approve. Your dad and best friend are only looking out for your best interests and it is difficult to convince them that somebody is good enough for you. If your boyfriend manages to get them on his side then you are probably on to a winner.

You wake up and feel lucky each morning

As you roll over in the morning and see him lying next to you, you are struck with a great sense of contentment. Here, out of everywhere in the world, is where you most want to be. You feel lucky to have him in your life and can't imagine sharing it with anyone else.

You stop noticing the cute guy at the coffee shop

Of course you are still going to find other men attractive but it is amazing how much less you notice them when you have found ‘the one'. Think about it, have you met anyone recently who really got your juices flowing? No? Then chances are he's right in front of you.
You just know

Sometimes there is no defining factor or moment that confirms he is ‘the one' - you just know. When your life is brighter with him in it (even with his annoying habits and football obsession), when you feel happy each morning and can't imagine your life without him, when you smile thinking about him - you just know.

 

 

By Emma Jayne Jones